This is something I’ve been wrestling with for a while now, as a coach I have somehow developed the belief that it’s not okay for me to fail. It’s a little ironic considering I tell my clients that failure is actually good for you, in fact, I’ve written a blog post about it. As a coach, I’ve bought into the lie that I need to be perfect or at the very least appear to be, and I shouldn’t share my moments of failure. An image of perfection isn’t relatable, real every day people want to work with coaches or consultants who understand what it is like to be where they are at. Who would want success tips from someone who has never failed and only ever experienced success? It’s hard to relate too.
Today, I’m getting real with you.
On October 23, 2015, I posted a blog post sharing my goals for the final quarter of 2015
. It was designed as an experiment around social accountability. I wanted to discover whether social accountability would help me achieve my goals. I’ve put my current blog series, ‘How to Create an Online Business’ on hold to discuss this because I believe it is important to your success.
The experiment didn’t go as expected. I set four goals for the last quarter and only achieved two goals. Does this mean the social accountability doesn’t work? Not necessarily. Let’s have a deeper look at what went on during the last quarter of 2015.
Goal #1: Edit and Publish my current non-fiction work in progress titled, ‘The SMARTER Technique’ by December 1, 2015.
From October 2015 through to January 2016 I am focusing on relaunching my coaching business. I originally started coaching in 2013, as a Personal Success Coach and I basically coached anyone who wanted to work with me. In September 2015, I decided to relaunch my business and work exclusively with women who daydream of quitting their 9 to 5 to become an entrepreneur with a profitable online business. During this time, I successfully released my ebook The SMARTER Technique for pre-order, which was later rebranded as SMARTER Goal Setting. This was only possible because I devoted the majority of my time to completing this task. The ebook is now available on Amazon, iTunes, and Kobo. Goal Accomplished! Yay!
Goal # 2: Loose 10 pounds by 31 December through making healthy lifestyle changes which include, exercising for a minimum of 30 minutes every day and eating healthier snacks.
I didn’t accomplish this goal. I’m actually 2 kilograms heavier thanks to Christmas and my three-week vacation in Paris and New York. Let’s take a deeper look at why I failed to achieve this goal. The key to successfully accomplishing a goal is to create a trigger and habit for each goal you want to achieve. This means purposefully performing a task each day for more than 30 days or until it becomes a habit. I dropped the ball, I stopped exercising before my brain had the chance to create a trigger and habit. If triggers and habits are something that interests you, then I recommend reading a blog post I wrote about this topic. I’ll include a link in the description box below. I also had a lot of other things going on as well which took precedence over this goal. My focus was relaunching my business, publishing my ebook, travel, and having time for myself; so I feel this was a matter of priorities.
Goal # 3: Join an entrepreneur ‘MeetUp’ group and attend on a weekly basis by December 1, 2015.
I didn’t join an entrepreneur meetup group during the quarter. My intention for this goal was to meet other entrepreneurs like myself who were not my clients. As the days and weeks slipped away, I realised how much work I had to do and physically meeting people seemed far less important; however, I did join three facebook communities instead. I joined one for entrepreneurs, another one for bloggers, and the third one for female coaches. I have remained an active role in these groups. While I didn’t necessarily achieve this goal, I did, however, meet the intention behind the goal. So, theoretically, depending upon your point of view, goal achieved! Yay!
Goal # 4: Start creating and publishing content for my Youtube channel by December 29.
As I mentioned in the original blog post, I wanted to master my fear of talking in front of a camera. Throughout, the quarter I performed various tests with my camera and started to daily vlog. I did start to plan out content but my fear got the better of me and I didn’t post a thing. I allowed my desire for perfection to stop me from posting the content, I created. I didn’t achieve this goal but I am a little better at talking in front of a camera.
This experiment did work, I managed to work on all of my goals but only managed to accomplish two goals. I made some progress, but I didn’t consider my workload when setting the goals and I failed to turn my goals into habits.
Here are my goals for the first quarter of 2016.
Goal #1: Write, Edit, and Publish my new non-fiction work in progress titled, ‘The Career Trap: Get Unstuck, Find Your Passion, and Escape the 9 to 5 and Build a Profitable Online Business.’ by February 28, 2016.
As we speak I am already 7,534 words into the first draft of this project. I have carefully outlined this book and started advertising it on my Facebook and Instagram accounts.
Goal # 2: Exercise for a minimum of 15 minutes every day.
I wanted to keep this goal as simple as possible. As a business coach and entrepreneur, I spend the majority of my time sitting down in front of my computer, and as a result, I barely move. I want to develop the habit of daily exercise as I am already monitoring nutrition and calorie intake. I feel that movement is more important than a number on a set of scales. I feel that this goal will fit in with my schedule and will be achievable.
Goal # 3: Talk to three people every week about my business.
I’ve set myself this goal because I want to conquer my fear of networking. I want to get into the habit of feeling comfortable with talking about what I do with complete strangers. This isn’t necessarily about selling but simply being comfortable talking. I’m an introvert and this is something that I really struggle with and it needs to change.
I’ve decided to not include a goal to set up a youtube channel because I want to survey my audience and discover how they would best like the information because I’m starting to feel that maybe a podcast would be a better product for my audience. There you go, these are my three goals that I will be working on this quarter. Now, I’d love to hear from you. What are your goals are for this quarter? What do you think, do you prefer a downloadable podcast or a youtube channel? Let me know by sharing them in the comments box below.
I look forward to sharing my results with you on March 31, 2016!
I help multi-passionate women just like you to package, brand and market your passions so that you can create your dream business and life, find clarity, confidence, and clients, and make a difference in your world.
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