So many people are in a place where they are doing something they do not love either out of necessity due to economy and a declining job market or, they pick an area they thought they would love or perhaps an area where so many people encouraged them to pursue and when they get there they know they are unhappy, but deep down inside they dream of something more. Unfortunately, one small myth stands in the way of turning the dream into your current reality. This is a scenario, I am all too familiar with through my own personal experience and seeing this in the lives of clients, friends, and in the world around me.
When I was 15 years old I dreamed of being an investigative journalist, asking the hard-hitting questions and writing gripping exposes, then I felt something was missing, I listened to my intuition and decided to pursue science, thinking what I really need to is to add value, but I still felt that it wasn’t a right fit. I graduated with good grades, confused, not knowing what I wanted and where my place was in this world; I tried many different avenues from fashion, working in a science lab, working for various no profits, then I gave up and out of desperation took the first job that came along which was an accounts assistant.
I was suffering from career ADHD! After aimless wondering, I decided to make a big move from Brisbane to Melbourne and I went back to university to study financial planning; nevertheless, I still felt unhappy. I came across a book and film called ‘The Secret.’ I know what your thinking, cue eye rolling but stay with me for a second. While I watched the film I felt drawn to Jack Canfield, I looked him up on Google and discovered he was a personal development life coach. I read his book called The Success Principles and downloaded a few audio podcast by Tony Robbins, as well as reading his book, Awaken The Giant Within and re-realised my own potential and started to dream of writing for film ant television as well as having my own life coaching business and helping others to realise their own potential and create a life that is fulfilling and prosperous. I felt happier and the voice in my head saying ‘this is not where you are supposed to be’ was finally silenced. I had no idea how I was going to make it happen. I decided to make a second much bigger move to London. In the months leading up to my international move I got scared, I started to think, 29 is too old to start a career in film and TV, and I have no experience in coaching, who want’s to be coached by a 29-year-old who struggled to figure out what she wants out of life. A few days later, after struggling to decide to make the move, I asked myself a question that changed everything, but more on that question later.
I’m Too Old for That
One of the very first self-improvement books that I ever read when I left school was The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. In this book, the author poses the following question and inspiring answer: ‘But do you know how old I will be by the time I learn to really play the piano / act / paint / write a decent play? Yes . . . the same age you will be if you don’t.’ I’m too old for that, is a lie we all tell ourselves to avoid the fear and insecurity that comes with being a beginner. The truth is, people can start a career at any age; in fact, there are loads of successful people who started way beyond their twenties.
- Sylvester Stallone was in his early 30’s working at a deli counter and as a movie usher when he wrote Rocky. He had a pregnant wife and not a lot of money in the bank but still refused to sell it unless they would let him play the lead role.
- Oprah was 32 when the Oprah Winfrey Show premiered.
- Dick Van Dyke was 36 when he made his film debut.
- J. K. Rowling was 32 when the first Harry Potter book was published, after being rejected by 12 publishers.
- At 26, Gene Hackman was voted the least likely to succeed and it took him 11 years to land his first film role and went on the lead a successful career.
- Leonard Cohen started his music career at 33.
The one question that got me out of my ‘I’m too old’ funk to packing my bags for London was leveraged around regret. Ask yourself, in 10 years time, will I regret having not done this? Or in order words, will I want to travel back in time and slap myself for not doing this? If the answer is yes, then take action immediately. If you’re not sure how to make your dream a reality or even which initial steps to take, check out my posts Achieve Every Goal You Set and Pursue Your Dreams.
As always, insight without action is futile! Do you know any late bloomers or are you a late bloomer yourself? Did you ever pass on an opportunity or a dream because you were too old and now want to slap yourself for not giving it a go? I want to hear your story. Please let me know by using the comments box below. Thank you for reading, sharing and commenting with such kindness and enthusiasm.