‘At the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.’ – Lao Tzu

Do you find yourself asking: How do I figure out what I really want or how do I discover my passion; or perhaps you feel like you’re the only one who has not figured this out yet? If you feel this way, then you need to understand that you are not alone. It is perfectly normal to not know what you want and it may take some time for you to realise what you want out of life. 

A recent report completed by Gallup released a report stating that only 13% of people feel a sense of passion, or a deep connection to their job. The report goes on to reveal that a staggering 63% feel unhappy or dissatisfied with their job but choose to do nothing about how they feel, in other words, they’ve checked out and carry out their duties on autopilot. The real danger that these people face is inaction, which over time leads to regret and is one of the top regrets of the dying. A further 24% confess to hating their job. The average person will spend 90,360 hours working until the age of retirement. This is an exceptionally long time to spend in a career or job that is not fulfilling.  How do you break out from the vicious unhappy at work cycle and decide what you really want to do?

My Story

Not knowing what you want to do with your life is a feeling that is not unfamiliar to me; in fact, I spent many years trying different careers on but nothing ever felt right. After a while, I began to feel like I had some type of career ADHD and this was as good as it was going to get. One cold and cloudy day before I moved to London, I rediscovered my passion for writing and I began to write screenplays, I loved writing, but there was something within me that knew this wasn’t the right career for me. Later that week, Jane who was one of my housemates introduced me to the secret. At first, I dismissed it out of scepticism but it kept popping up in my life, nevertheless I eventually gave in and watched the movie. Through this movie, I came across the teachings and products of a couple of Lifestyle Entrepreneurs, John Assaraf and Jack Canfield. I watched their videos on YouTube and I purchased Jack Canfield’s Book The Success Principles. I eventually came across other coaches like Matthew Hussey, Marie Forleo, and Lewis Howes; I took their advice on board and tried out a few of my own ideas.

As I began to reflect upon my life and the types of careers I was drawn to as well as the types of people I admired; I soon realised that I wanted to be a Lifestyle Coach. It was the perfect fit. I started to become aware that I was a multi-passionate person and I made the mistake of focusing upon one thing and putting all of my other passions aside. I fell into the trap that I had to do one thing and that was it. Saying no to all of my other passions was making me unhappy. After months of unhappiness I took a risk and went against the advice that I had been given and simply said yes. By saying yes and allowing myself to pursue my other passions as side projects, I allow these other passions to enrich and add value to my life.

Secrets to Finding Your Passion

1. Reflect

Reflection is the key to becoming unstuck in life. Take a few moments to pause and reflect upon your life and the choices you’ve made. Very little can be achieved if you do not quieten your mind. Reflect upon your happiest moments: what were you doing? Who were you with? Your bliss or career should give you joy or an inner peace. The philosopher Confucius once said, choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life. I get an immense amount of joy and inner peace out of lifestyle coaching. As human beings, we receive more joy and fulfilment out of enriching the lives of others. I do not necessarily mean that we all become life coaches or start working for charities. Steve Jobs received joy and fulfilment out of creating pieces of technology that were not only an extension of users but added value to life of the user.

2. Visualise

Ask yourself, what would you attempt if you knew you could not fail or have unlimited time and resources? Let your mind wonder and visualise what your life would look like. Be constantly asking yourself this question, until you get a clear picture. Do not limit yourself to conventional thinking like a 9 to 5 career, unless that is what you really want. Use this practice of visualisation to discover what really make you happy. Visualisation is a tool that can help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Author and Philosopher, Napoleon Hill once said, whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.

3. Start a Journal

Discovering your bliss or creating a life you love is a journey and one worth documenting. Start a create a life you love, journal and record your moment of reflection, visualisation, the career you try and any other activities you pursue in order to discover your bliss. Habitually review the pages of your journal; by going over the journal at a later time you can often pick up on things that were not obvious to you a few months ago.

4. Embrace Balance

Pursue a balanced and full life in each of the seven areas of your life: life: health, personal (emotions, mindset), career, wealth, relationships, recreation and contribution.  Give each of the seven areas a score out of 10. Take note of the areas that score less than seven. Ask yourself, what does this area of my life look like at the moment? Write the answers down in a journal. Now consider, how you would like these areas to look like? Continue to reflect and brainstorm about how you want to live out these areas of your life. Write the ideas down in a journal.

5. Constantly Search

Be constantly searching for the things that you would love to do. Over time, you may find there are a couple of things you would like to do within the span of your life. Do not force yourself to make a decision at the moment, sometimes it’s beneficial to try a few things on before making a decision. Do not limit yourself to the expectations of others or make any rash decisions out of a fear of age. Record your search in your journal and over time a pattern will begin to emerge and your passion will become clearer. An answer will not become apparent overnight but you will eventually find what brings you joy and inner peace. Above all else, never give up.

As always, insight without action is futile. Which one of these tips do you plan on putting into practice this week? Or do you have insights on your experience with finding your bliss? Please let me know by using the comments box below. Thank you for reading, sharing and commenting with such kindness and enthusiasm.

With love,

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Amelia Hay

Author + Coach at Amelia Hay International
I help multi-passionate women just like you to package, brand and market your passions so that you can create your dream business and life, find clarity, confidence, and clients, and make a difference in your world.
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